This is embarrassing so please just use my first name and stuff.   And DON'T put my e-mail address up there but I have a lie that I need some help with.  I'm a nineteen year old guy going to a Community College in the Mid West.   I never had a girl friend before and so I got this girlfriend but I was too afraid to do anything more than kiss her.  I would take her out to see movies and stuff.   We saw the Titanic movie together and she was sniffling and crying and once she reached over and put her arm around me and kissed me on the cheek.  I was totally scared.  I know it sounds stupid so please don't make fun of me.

I told my friends that I didn't know how to do anything with her.   I wanted to touch her breasts and make out and stuff but I didn't know what to do.   This is the lie: They told me that chicks want it as bad as guys and that I should just do anything I wanted to with her.

Well, one night while I was kissing her goodnight like I always do, I reached down and stroked her breast.  She slapped me really hard in the face and told me to fuck off really loudly.  People came out of the doors in the dorm to see what was going on.  I was so embarrassed.

Here's my question: I think I know what they told me was a lie.   Girls don't want it as much as guys and you shouldn't just do whatever you want to.   But she's a really nice girl and I want to make things like they were again but she won't talk to me and never returns my calls.  What should I do?

Answer for Henry
from: The Bubble

Dear Henry,

You already know your so-called friends lied to you.  People are vicious and they are jealous of innocence because theirs has been squandered.  Your friends thought it would be funny to watch you alienate this girl.  Well, it wasn't funny for you, was it?

The only way to get out of this problem is to be nakedly honest with her.  If you didn't ever tell her that she was your first girlfriend, you must get that message to her now.  Try a note in flowers, or a letter or even an e-mail.   I'd go with the flowers, they have helped me out of some pretty gigantic blunders that I have made with women.  Chances are pretty good that she knew you had no experience with women anyway.  But that doesn't excuse you acting like a dunce and groping her tits.  She will tell you when the time is right for that kind of thing.

Good luck,
The Bubble