You know your brother already knows the
truth. It can only make matters worse the longer you hold off telling the
truth. Your brother is going to be your brother for the rest of your life and you
owe it to him and yourself to keep your
relationship as loving as possible.
If you preface your talk with your parents by saying, "Listen I have been terrified
that you are going to send me away to boarding school if I tell you this, so please don't
send me away, I love you and I love my brother and I have to be honest so here
goes..." Something like that will show that you care. I'm sure you had no
idea that lying about the smell was going to get
your brother shipped away, so don't feel guilty but just try to clean up things as much as
you can as soon as you can. -- Chris
By all means,
suck it up and tell the truth! I understand lying to protect yourself, but your lie has
cost SOMEONE ELSE their freedom. This is evil. Rectify this at once, and take your lumps
like a man. -- Vic
Tell your parents that you and your friends were snooping, as twelve-year-olds
will, and you are so sorry, you would never ever try that again. Be a brother! From
someone with four older brothers, much older than you, I know you will never forgive
yourself if you don't stand up for him. No one else is. If you can't count on your
family... better late than never. If you don't, and have any shred of conscience: you'll
never forgive yourself. He deserves to be home with his family and friends. --
Su Anna
That's f***ed up! He should tell the
truth because his brother got punished for nothing! Even I thinks that's not right! --
Lloyd
No matter what you do, your brother is still your brother,
and until you or he has left this earth, you'll be connected to him like a branch to a
tree. The guilt may forever be there, but it will lessen considerably should you
ever have the conscience to think about your brother's loss of freedom and family and
confess your wrong-doing. Your parents should also realize that you were only twelve
at the time, and that kids around that age tend to experiment to have experience.
The difference is, not most kids would directly or indirectly send their own brother 1,
000 miles from home. -- Janie
You should tell
your parents, even though you'll probably get in trouble, it's not worth it.( having your
brother so many miles any and he doesn't know why, even! ) -- Anon
You should tell them the truth. I'm sure your
brother has a clue what happened and he's probably pretty pissed off. If you don't
tell, you'll never be able to live with yourself. 10 years from now when you decide
it's safe to come out with it will be too late and your relationship with your brother
will be ruined if it's not already. It's not worth it. When you do something
wrong you deserve the consequences, no matter what they are. Go for it! -- A.S.
Taylor
THIS IS A VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION; INDEED, YOU MAY
GET SENT AWAY ALSO. I THINK IT WOULD BE BEST IF YOU WAITED UNTIL YOUR BROTHER CAME BACK
AND THE TWO OF YOU ARE A LOT OLDER ( I MEAN WITH GRAND CHILDREN). YOU MAY THEN WANT
TO TELL THE TRUTH. THEN AGAIN, YOUR BROTHER MAY RESENT YOU FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE,
SO MAYBE THAT'S NOT SUCH A GOOD IDEA TO TELL AT ALL. -- LNBROWN19
Doesn't anybody seem to care about the brother? It's all
"you should cultivate your relationsghip with him for your own sake," or
"You should tell the truth to rid yourself of guilt" but when it comes down to
it A) It was the brother's pot to begin with, and B) He's the one in boarding school.
The little brother oughtta ask his brother what he should do! If his brother is
sensible, he'll say "forget it" since his parents are unlikely to recall him.
(Then again I doubt I'd want to come home to parents who'd send me away for something my
brother told them without listening to me. It was just some pot, for crying out
loud!) If the brother is merciless, he can say, "bite the bullet" and his
misfortune (again, if you could call it that) would be rectified. Simple as that. -- Mark
Henshaw
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