Posted by Robert R. Cobb on March 03, 2001 at 18:40:30:
In Reply to: Re: PLEEEEZE HELP ME!!! I think my husband is cheating! posted by JSkates on February 27, 2001 at 11:12:46:
: Kim,
: If you don't mind, I'll tell you what I would do. First, don't confront or over-react about the small things. If you can stand to, try to just keep a mental note about some of those curiousities that have been cropping up. Second, and this is the hardest part, believe that he is innocent until PROVEN guilty. Arguements over your suspicions will either drive him away OR it could lead him to be MORE careful in hiding things from you. I guess what I'm saying is, if you lead him into a false sense of security, he will eventually screw up and leave you with an obvious trail to his infidelity. OR, you might just end up improving your security and outlook on your relationship if there is NOTHING going on.
: Make Peace and Take Care,
: Jenn
Kim,
There is something that is going on that cannot be part of any healthy relationship, especially one where a marriage and children are involved. Smoking pot is illegal, your husband is lying to you about what he does and with whom. He will not be a good example for your kids if he smokes pot and runs around behind your back with other women. He is immature, irresponsible, and taking risks that are dangerous. He cannot be trusted. You should not be so gullible!
Robert