Posted by Chris on October 05, 2001 at 09:03:52:
In Reply to: Please...Help posted by What to do? on October 04, 2001 at 11:01:05:
One of the reasons we decided to add the COUNSELING section to LiesPeopleTell.com is because we very frequently get messages like this one that are so difficult to answer in just a few rapid posts or exchanges of e-mail. There are patterns of attraction in you that contibuted for the choices that brought you into this relationship -- if you seek counseling, a licensed professional can help you discover those hidden patterns in yourself and help you to either heal this relationship or heal yourself so that you do not make the same choice again. Click the counseling button to find a counselor in your own area -- if we haven't contacted any therapists in that area, please open up your yellow pages and find one near you.
: I'm in love with a liar...Is that possible? I've been with this person for 3 years. The first time he told me he had been lying to me about "petty" things, which in fact the truth was a good thing, was six months into our relationship. The issue never came up again, until later on when I realized it was constant, he hid it, he lied to everybody and that it was a problem. Or so I think, because there is no other explanation of such behaviour. I don't mind what he does, he doesn't do things to upset me, yet he lies about everything. THE LYING UPSETS me, and in result most definately taking away my sanity. I know, if I am to stay with him, he will never change. He lies to my face, even with knowing the truth, having proof of it I still ask, I don't demand, to give him a chance to tell me the truth himself...yet he insists on lying...Why? Why do liars even when caught insist on it? Even when he knows I am to find out and probably know, claiming he loves me, insist on hurting me that way?
: It's either his lies, or me.
: Honestly...I feel if I leave him, I would be giving my back to him, and if I stay I would be denying myself and mental health.
: Please...HELP.