Posted by Shannie on March 09, 2002 at 19:32:58:
In Reply to: Lived a lie for 2 1/2 years, need help.... posted by Anonymous on March 07, 2002 at 12:42:45:
Please don't be hurt or agonize over the lies that this grown-woman-who-should-know-better has told you. Think about it, Sweetie: She has lied consistently to you for two and one-half years. If you would end up in a relationship with her, she will no doubt lie to you about every little thing , and you don't need that sort of mental manipulation from anyone. As a mother of two, I know, trust me on this- Your Mom is riding you with just reason- she dosen't want to see you hurt or used and wants the best for you. Your Mom also knows this lady is full of crap and should know better. I understand that you are feeling bad right now, but if you would really think about it, the true sorce of your aggravation is probably the amount of time you have invested in this relationship. Usually the longer you have been with a person, regardless of what they have done wrong, it is harder to let them go. This is normal (how you feel, not what she has done)- It is not a good ideal for you to try and be with this woman or support her because of your mental and emotional attachment, she will definitley pick up on your mental state and use it to her advantage with no hesitation. Remember, she had no problem telling lies for two years, so I don't put her past using you or worse. Please do yourself a favor and save yourself trouble for later- change your e-mail and move on with your life, please, for your own sake!! LISTEN TO YOUR MOM!!!
: I just found out yesterday that my gf lied to me about her entire life. we have had an online relationship for 2 1/2 years now, and i never expected this. i am 17 years old and already i have been planning my life to fit with hers so that we can be together. she told me she was 19, and i didnt think that was too bad an age difference. yesterday i found out she isnt 19. she is 40 years old and is MARRIED and has CHILDREN. ive seen plenty of pictures of her and she doesnt look 40 in any way, maybe alittle older than 19, but not 40. This is all so hard for me to believe and to accept. She is unhappy in her marriage, her husband does nothing but ignore her, and that is why she had a relationship with me. i dont think she had any malicious intent, and i know that she didnt want to her me. her feelings for me are genuine, as are mine for her. there was a time when she was going to leave her children and husband to be with me, and i know that isnt right. but now she knows she has to get a divorce because she cant live and be treated the way that she is. i am going to be her friend and her pillar of strength during this time because she needs it and i truly care about her. the problem is is that i love her with all of my heart, and even though i know i shouldnt i cant help but have feelings for her. we have said that we cant maintain a relationship given her age and her life, and although i know that this is almost certainly true, part of me wants it. i have always believed completely in true love, and i feel that is what i have. i feel like if we have that true love then things like that shouldnt matter. it sounds strange im sure but i feel that her and i were made for eachother, regardless of the 23 year age difference. i dont know what to do, i am so confused, so i am posting my story here to see what you all think. my parents are not one bit happy about any of this, my mom has been riding my ass and she absolutely hates her guts. she doesnt want me to ever talk to my now exgf again. i cant say that i blame her, but i cant deny my heart. im so confused, please give me your opinions. i love her with all of my heart, as she does me, but still...can / should / could we do this, or is it doomed?